Let’s say there’s a woman named Melissa. She is a successful businesswoman. She came into iFloat several months ago to inquire about floating. She sat in our lobby and asked questions. We showed her the float room. She looked interested. She then sat down again and began talking. “I’m frustrated,” she said, “My life is going well but I am having difficulty in my relationships with men. They just don’t last.” I inquired as to why. “They lose interest,” she said scornfully. She was still mad at them. I talked about the mind, and how much of what we do is below one’s awareness. “Do you know what your role was in their departure?” She quickly began talking about her parents. “They were bad role models she said. My mother didn’t love me or anyone. She told me over and over how men were not to be trusted.” I inquired, “Does she still say that?” She took a gulp and said, “My parents died in an accident ten years ago.” I expressed my condolences. We talked more and I explained how the floating might help her explore this more. She signed up for a float.
She came in a few days later. I oriented her and she went in for an hour-long float session. When she came out, she was very tense. I showed her the tea station and she went into the room. About five minutes later I came in to check on her. When I inquired about the session, she said, “It was awful.” She was transmitting a lot of tension and frustration. “What was awful about it?” I said. “My body was in pain. My mind was spinning. I kept breathing to calm myself down but every time I did that I was just so angry. I don’t think this is for me.” I laughed a bit, not to make fun of her but to help calm her down. She was confused. “Look, what happens in the float room is you slow your mind down. It’s like taking an elevator eighty stories down into the parts of your mind you usually do not pay attention to. So as you breathed and as you stayed in there, your mind slowed. Here’s the thing: There is a lot of frustration way down there for you. And here’s the other thing: That’s your frustration. It belongs to no one else except you. In other words, you are the creator of that frustration.”
She did not like to hear that. “I don’t think that’s true,” she said. I responded, “No?,” I said calmly. “Can you explain what you mean?” She went on to explain how her mother made her not trust men, and how she is so angry at her mother. I listened and then responded, “I don’t know your mother and it may be true that your mother did not like men. But the reality is you put that idea in your head about men and it can be changed. Blaming your mother, who is no longer living, for your current life and reality doesn’t make much sense. No one was in the float room with you. It was just you. Therefore, it is your frustration. The voice of frustration is yours.” She then stopped and thought for a long while.
For those of you reading this, it is important to keep in mind that everyone who comes out of a float tank is in a slower brain wave state. It is a brain wave state that is slower than what people generally attain through meditation. More importantly, people coming out of a float room have just spent an hour or more in an environment empty of distraction. That is a big thing for people when they first start floating. The reason is there are no distractions and, therefore, no one or nothing to blame.
For Melissa, it may have been the first time in her life that she slowed down that much to look at where she stored her frustration. It may be the first time she slowed down enough to actually consider something different. I could tell she slowed down enough to look at herself during our conversation because I saw a change in her energy. The hardened exterior seemed to soften a bit. She took in some deep breaths. “I’ll think about that,” she said. And she did. She has since come back and floated many times.
We have many people at iFloat who come out of the float room in a state of peace and relaxation. However, people also often come out having seen things about themselves they did not want to see or “hear.” Sometimes the discomfort is experienced in feelings or emotions. Other times it manifests as physical discomfort, such a pain in the arm or back. The beauty of floating is whatever a person experiences in the float room is self-generated. It is an amazing environment to face the parts of oneself a person often avoids.
As another small example, let’s say a client named Mark, came out and had a realization about something small. His brother and wife were going to be in town for a night from Philadelphia. He had planned on taking them to his favorite restaurant. However, when he was floating, he realized they were not going to like his favorite restaurant because it served exotic food and his brother and wife prefered American-type food. When he was floating, he had the opportunity to be honest with himself about that, and think about his guests instead of himself. There was a part of him that “did not want to hear” that his brother would not like his restaurant. However, another part of him wanted to make his brother’s visit more hospitable. The “hospitable” path is what he chose. I’m sure the visit went much better as a result.
So come float. Find out what it is you don’t want to see or hear about yourself. It helps because if you don’t figure it out for yourself, the world will let you know. It’s much easier to figure it out ahead of time. It saves time, money, and helps maintain harmonious relationships.